Being in a relationship is something of a security blanket for many people. Like an "at least I'm not alone" sort of thing. The presence of a significant other can absolutely add value to our lives and provide a form of support through adversity; but it's simply irrational to regard anyone in a relationship as … Continue reading “Why Are You Single?”: The Bizarre Idealisation of Relationships
An unexpected insight came up in a therapy session a few weeks back. I was talking about the attention that naturally comes with performing and showcasing my essence and vulnerability on a stage. People take notice, approach you to talk about your set - buy you a drink, even. Mostly guys. I said to my … Continue reading An Honest Talk About Attention + Validation
What I say: I love and accept myself exactly as I am I approve of myself My heart has boundless strength I am brave to love It is safe to be vulnerable What I do: Cry. Howl. Wail (currently trying not to though as I'm in a coffee shop). Write songs (allowing crying breaks, of … Continue reading Breakups + Self-Care 💔
I'm no stranger to being angry or overwhelmed. These days I'm reasonably good at hiding my anger, so people are usually quite surprised when I tell them I have a temper. But it's there! It kinda runs on both sides of the family - my Mam and Dad can both be pretty irritable - and … Continue reading How To Deal With Anger + Overwhelm
Any time I've found myself in a truly toxic situation or dynamic, it hasn't been until after the fact that I've been able to acknowledge it. It's difficult to categorise someone's words or actions as abusive when you feel fondness towards them. When you love someone - romantically or otherwise - you feel as if … Continue reading “It’s Just A Joke” – The Many Faces Of Emotional Abuse
Last July, I started blogging about self-esteem growth. I was in a very dark place last summer. I had been working in a stressful environment for months and had been entertaining unhealthy friendships that toyed with my emotions and had me questioning my self worth. Then I was diagnosed with a chronic illness and out … Continue reading Thoughts On…A Year Of Self-Esteem Growth
I've been thinking about what self reliance means - more specifically, can someone be in a relationship, receive counselling and still be self-reliant? I'd like to explore the idea of counselling first. I started receiving counselling - not for the first time - a little over 3 weeks ago. I'd been intending to do this … Continue reading Thoughts On… Self Reliance
"Self reliance is about making a commitment to becoming less dependent on others, practically and emotionally, and to building up our sense of self confidence and self-competence. It may mean learning a new skill or attending a course for example, or beginning to grow out of a childlike relationship with a parental figure." - Dr … Continue reading Self Reliance – Setting Intentions
Training in self awareness came at the perfect time because this week has been pretty hectic. Work has been busy. Like, out of control busy. Like, you know when you have a few really important things that you need to do immediately but you physically can't because you're too busy? You can see tables covered in … Continue reading Thoughts On… A Week Of Self Awareness
"By arising in faith and watchfulness, by self-possession and self-harmony, the wise man makes an island for his soul which many waters cannot overflow." - Watchfulness, The Dhammapada The Dhammapada is a book containing what is widely believed to be the Buddha's teachings. True contentment, it seems, comes from attaining control of one's mind and … Continue reading Self Awareness – Setting Intentions
